Our Connective Question: Write down ten people you admire and why you admire them, the qualities that give them value in your eyes. Try to recognize that quality in yourself.
Last connective session, we invest our time to connect with what are the qualities we admire. Do we have the qualities? Many of the qualities we admire are literally free. Some of the common ones by the group are …
- Wisdom
- Functionality
- Strategic
- Smartness
- Creativity
- Frankness
- Decisiveness
- Loving-Kindness
- Strong connectivity with others…
I am fascinated by values. Values we all hold dear to us. Make a list of the twenty things you value most in life. How many of these are free? Did your list include yourself?
I see that most people forgot to value themselves. If you do not value yourself, then how do you even value other things? Think !
If we were to prioritize our top three values what would yours be? Do you hold these values but not live them? Try to sit down with pen and paper. Write down your top three values in your life. Do your values show up in your real life?
How long will it take you? For some of us, we can jot it down quickly, but some of us are very frustrated by this exercise. Ask yourself why it was easy or hard. That is where I want your heart right now.
Why is it important to look at our values?
Let me give an example here of values and what we think of others or how we judge.
Lets say you are in line at a up-end supermarket. You see in front of you a woman with a child, a young child. This woman is dressed in very fine clothes. The child is dressed very nice. The woman puts her food down on the grocery counter. You notice she has nice steaks, lobster, fruits, vegetables, and candy and donuts. She looks up at the cashier and pays him with aided support vouchers.
How do we judge or put value judgements on this woman at the grocery counter? Maybe you thought it was good that she had some quality food such as steak and lobster, or you felt pangs of envy that she could afford them, or you judged her for buying such food.
What did you think or value on the she and the child wore as you noticed they were on welfare? This is where I want your mind to go. What do you really think of this scenario.
I hope this post can help you look at yourself and the people who you deal with in your life and ask yourself if you are judging a book by its cover. “To err is human” But to look within is Wise”
See all of you in our next session.
With Love & Light,
Katherine Goh
The Power of Self-Mastery with KatherineGoh 