When you are not honoring the present moment by allowing it to be, you are creating drama.” ~Eckhart Tolle
Our topic in this gathering is Life Dramas. All gatherers sit in the session with some form of dramas (could have ended or in process) such as work drama, office drama, attachment drama..etc
Drama seems to be constantly surrounding us. But who creates all these life dramas? The answer is YOU!
How can we avoid unnecessary drama in our lives? In three words, stop creating it. Sound too simplistic? Read on.
More often than not, we create our own drama during peaceful, calm stages in life.
Boredom. Addiction to excitement. Restlessness. Letting the EGO control our lives.
It’s almost as if we strive for peace and happiness, yet when we’re living it, it’s not enough. Our egos can just be so accustomed to the inflation received during periods of drama — proving that we’re right, controlling people or situations, feeling justified in playing the victim to get attention. This happens when we’ve unleashed the ego to operate under direct influence of external events, rather than directing it via the world within, better known as our higher selves.
The best way to become aware of an “ego drama in the making” is to recognize and acknowledge it.
How can we avoid Life Dramas?
- Avoid Giving Unsolicited Advice
I’m sure you know the exact way to fix everyone’s problems. The reality is you have no idea what you’re talking about, and even if you do, nobody’s interested unless they’re directly asking you. Keep your advice to yourself, and you’ll avoid a lot of unnecessary drama.
- Mind Your Beeswax and Know Your Limits
Avoid the drama by minding your own business. People have a tendency to over-commit themselves. When you have too many commitments, you can’t focus everything you should on all of them. Things fall by the wayside, and you become a flake, no matter how hard you try. If you keep falling short of peoples’ expectations, they’ll all end up “against” you, and you’ll find yourself surrounded by drama.
- Focus On Yourself
If you’re focused on getting ahead in your goals, you won’t even notice the drama. You’ll be so zoned in on your own future all the side-drama just fades into the background.
- Learn To Say No
People will ask you a lot of questions. Don’t get involved. It’s that simple. And if someone you don’t want to talk to texts you with drama, don’t respond. They’ll get bored with it sooner or later.
- Stop Gossiping and Smile
Gossip is a two-way street. It’s all well and good to tell everyone about how someone else gossips, but that makes you a gossip. The listener is a gossip, too. You don’t get to project your downfalls on others to absolve yourself from responsibility.
When you smile, you become the center of the room. You end up in the driver’s seat. If people come to you with drama, you can steer the conversation elsewhere. They’ll follow you because you seem more confident. If they don’t, you can confidently ignore them and walk away. No more drama.
Life will always have drama – it’s unavoidable. Instead of letting it get to you, meditate. You’ll never find that fairy tale “happily ever after” life where everything is easy. The richest and poorest, youngest and oldest, biggest and smallest of us, have problems. The grass on both sides of the fence needs constant watering, weeding and mowing.
Without self-made dramas, life floats to the tune of the universe, and it’s this tune that miracles and magic are made of.