Category: Monthly Connective Goal Session

The state of flow, or being “in the zone”, is a state of peak performance. The key to being in the state Flow is Manoeuvre. The attitude to manoeuvre with ease is flexibility and allowing.

The flow state has been described by the world’s greatest thinkers as the most productive and creative state of mind in which to work. In addition, positive psychologists–most notably Dr. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Ph.D.–argue that achieving the flow state on a regular basis is a key component of happiness. That is, by learning how to enter the state of flow you can increase your productivity, be more creative, be more flexible and be happier, all at the same time.

How Does It Feel to Be in the Flow?

These seven points summarize how some people responded that they felt when in the flow state:

1. You’re completely involved in what you’re doing: you’re completely focused and concentrated.
2. There’s a sense of ecstasy–of being outside of everyday reality.
3. There’s a great inner clarity: you know what needs to be done and you get immediate feedback on how well you’re doing.
4. You know that the activity is doable, that you have the necessary skills to complete the task successfully.
5. You lose your sense of self and all of your worries and concerns drift away.
6. You lose track of time and you’re completely focused on the present moment.
7. There’s an intrinsic motivation—whatever produces flow becomes it’s own reward.

Did you notice similarities on what Katherine is doing in the gathering? Flow is a basic “ingredient” required to facilitate a soulvana “feast”.

Interestingly enough, the idea of flow came into being as result of research on happiness. Researchers began asking themselves: “What makes us happy?” and “When are we most happy”? As a result of this research psychologists realized that being able to enter the flow state–which is a very enjoyable experience–is a key component of happiness.

Conclusion

The ability to get into flow makes personal peak performances possible. It is a great experience and I would love to hear your own ways of getting in the flow or what you experienced being in the Zone.

Till the next time.

When you are not honoring the present moment by allowing it to be, you are creating drama.” ~Eckhart Tolle

Our topic in this gathering is Life Dramas. All gatherers sit in the session with some form of dramas (could have ended or in process) such as work drama, office drama, attachment drama..etc 

Drama seems to be constantly surrounding us. But who creates all these life dramas? The answer is YOU!

How can we avoid unnecessary drama in our lives? In three words, stop creating it. Sound too simplistic? Read on.

More often than not, we create our own drama during peaceful, calm stages in life.

Why?

Boredom. Addiction to excitement. Restlessness. Letting the EGO control our lives.

It’s almost as if we strive for peace and happiness, yet when we’re living it, it’s not enough. Our egos can just be so accustomed to the inflation received during periods of drama — proving that we’re right, controlling people or situations, feeling justified in playing the victim to get attention. This happens when we’ve unleashed the ego to operate under direct influence of external events, rather than directing it via the world within, better known as our higher selves.

The best way to become aware of an “ego drama in the making” is to recognize and acknowledge it.

How can we avoid Life Dramas?

• Avoid Giving Unsolicited Advice

I’m sure you know the exact way to fix everyone’s problems. The reality is you have no idea what you’re talking about, and even if you do, nobody’s interested unless they’re directly asking you. Keep your advice to yourself, and you’ll avoid a lot of unnecessary drama.

• Mind Your Beeswax and Know Your Limits

Avoid the drama by minding your own business. People have a tendency to over-commit themselves. When you have too many commitments, you can’t focus everything you should on all of them. Things fall by the wayside, and you become a flake, no matter how hard you try. If you keep falling short of peoples’ expectations, they’ll all end up “against” you, and you’ll find yourself surrounded by drama.

• Focus On Yourself

If you’re focused on getting ahead in your goals, you won’t even notice the drama. You’ll be so zoned in on your own future all the side-drama just fades into the background.

• Learn To Say No

People will ask you a lot of questions. Don’t get involved. It’s that simple. And if someone you don’t want to talk to texts you with drama, don’t respond. They’ll get bored with it sooner or later.

• Stop Gossiping and Smile

Gossip is a two-way street. It’s all well and good to tell everyone about how someone else gossips, but that makes you a gossip. The listener is a gossip, too. You don’t get to project your downfalls on others to absolve yourself from responsibility.

When you smile, you become the center of the room. You end up in the driver’s seat. If people come to you with drama, you can steer the conversation elsewhere. They’ll follow you because you seem more confident. If they don’t, you can confidently ignore them and walk away. No more drama.

• Meditate

Life will always have drama – it’s unavoidable. Instead of letting it get to you, meditate. You’ll never find that fairy tale “happily ever after” life where everything is easy. The richest and poorest, youngest and oldest, biggest and smallest of us, have problems. The grass on both sides of the fence needs constant watering, weeding and mowing.

Without self-made dramas, life floats to the tune of the universe, and it’s this tune that miracles and magic are made of.

Namaste!