Tag: Self Love

Hello Goal-Setters,

This class we have attempted to look deep within ourselves. Most people feel alone at some points in their lives. Some people even have the feeling of abandonment. Perhaps, the feeling of abandoning yourself by yourself? Letting others taking control over you?

Sometimes the feelings are there for reasons that seem obvious and real, for example:

• the aftermath of a painful break-up of a romantic relationship
• a chronic health problem that seems to sap our vitality and makes us feel less fun to be with
• unrequited love or passion, or simply wanting an intimate and sexual relationship and failing to find one
• “the morning after” meaningless sex that did not deliver the emotions you hoped for
• the feeling of disillusionment after having shared too much with someone who doesn’t understand
• simply having no-one to turn to when life gets tough

You could probably add quite a few more situations to this list yourself, because everyone’s experience of feeling alone is slightly different. But – in some ways – this fact holds the key to understanding what causes us to feel alone. And, once we understand such a powerful emotion, it becomes so much easier to learn to fear it less and to recognise that you CAN do something to change your feelings.

I’ve said that there are many reasons for feeling alone, but perhaps there is really only one cause. Loneliness sets in when we cannot – for whatever reason – share our thoughts and feelings with someone whom we trust, and who we know will care. Care enough to listen to what we are saying, even if he or she is busy. Care enough to try to understand what we feel and why. Care enough to empathise rather than merely offer sympathy or condolence, worst off Pity.

Being alone and feeling alone are not the same things; not by a long way. Being alone can, for most of us, be very invigorating, but only for some of the time. For how much of the time varies significantly between people – one woman may think it idyllic to spend two weeks alone on a small Greek island with only a few books for company, another may become bored if she finds herself alone at home for a few hours once the kids are safely dropped off at school.

Most of us can handle some time alone providing that it’s our choice, or a part of our lives we consider “normal”. But very few of us would ever want to feel alone.

Feeling alone is largely created by your own perception of not being “connected” to the people around you.  “Connected” includes mutual trust in a relationship. The great thing about this is that you can influence this perception, and there are some techniques that help you to do so which we have learnt in our class.

To sign off, here are some quotes to sweeten our life:

You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. – Buddha

“If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.” – Barbara De Angelis 

“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance”– Oscar Wilde 

Hello Friends,

Katherine Goh

Hello Goal Setters,

Next class, we will share and reveal more on Love.

With Love & Light,

Katherine Goh

“Love doesn’t make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.”  Franklin Jones

There is such a thing as the perfect correspondence between Man and Woman. An alchemy that happens in one wink. In one instant only, is born this attraction superior to all attractions, a spiritual turn which we call : Love

Love is the most powerful of feelings able to animate (anima=soul in latin) us amongst those feelings which make us STAND upright facing life, filled with the mission of loving the Other,others.

In our May sharing session, I had stressed the importance of allowing LOVE into your life so you have sense of purpose in what you do. You see Light in your life. You are Guided.

Love is the sole value known that is only enriched by the gift of self to the other and reciproquely. It is the supreme freedom of shared happiness in the shaking that is imposed to us – an evidence of happiness. You are free to choose your constraint. It’s not the relationship constraining you, it’s you choosing freely the person to whom you will offer the emotional part of your freedom. It’s important to see it positively in acting and not passively like “he or she took my freedom”… We are actors of our love life. The constraint is in refusing it.

 Happiness consists of harmonizing with one’s Heart, the great master of life.

All this is found far from calculations, from one’s life organization, from the dock-like regulation of one’s feelings or emotions. Those who protect themselves perhaps are not hurting, but ignore this formidable push towards joy, this hymn to live that is echoed unto the sky, carrying us and transporting us with a superhuman strength toward our objectives, allowing to attain them.

Give thanks to be as you are and keep answering the beckoning of Love with the same Faith, you’ll find on your path this person with whom you will exchange the same Force. And you will be invincible.

I cannot resist concluding this piece with a last quote from Khalil Gibran who generated these reflections : “Love is a word of Light written with a hand of Light on a page of Light. Love is the sole freedom existing in this world . Because it elevates the soul to a supreme rank which neither human rules nor their mores can reach and which neither laws nor Natural Order can govern it. Action is the Image of Love.”

Namaste OM Love

Katherine Goh

Next class, we will share and reveal more on Being Present In Love.